Become a more connected parent when you disconnect!
Let’s have a cell phoneless Saturday! Disconnect to reconnect!
I recently read an article about our use of cell phones. It really made me think…gone are the days when parents have to get off the phone because their toddler took off to the other room and they can no longer see their child. It used to be that phone cord only stretched so far! Now we can follow our child and talk, go on a walk and talk, text and sit on the floor and “play”, check work e-mails and go to the park. Wow, great…right? Not really. Every day we are connected to our phones, and our children know it, they feel it. Our phones have become almost a part of us! I know that I feel almost “naked” without mine! The time we spend with our children should not be shared time with the phone. Our children deserve and need our phoneless presence. We are missing precious opportunities for communication, quiet moments, and engagement. It is impossible to be totally engaged with your child while reading an email, texting or talking, you are not engaged but simply in the same room!
This Saturday is one of those 940 Saturdays I have spoken about. 940 Saturdays from birth until your child leaves for college. Those “long days” of parenting become very brief when put in that time frame. Those moments when you have to answer an e-mail as you push your child on the swing, or your boards on Pinterest seem so much more interesting than the blocks in front of you, or you just have to make that call as you are pushing the stroller on a walk, think of the precious engaged time you may have missed; the conversation, the teaching moments, the sweet smiles. Parenting is these moments; fun moments, exciting moments, frustrating moments, and boring moments…but moments that you will miss after those 940 Saturdays have passed. Let’s try to truly be connected to our families this weekend. We may not realize how our phones that keep us so “connected” actually “disconnected” our family. Remember, payback is coming! Soon your child will have a cell phone, texting, e-mailing, and talking, when you want his attention. We need to teach family connectedness now. Let’s all lose that cell phone this Saturday, and truly be present…it might be one of our best Saturdays yet!
Take a breath, enjoy the joyful moments of each day, and remember you don’t have to be perfect to be the perfect parent.