Did Kate Middleton just make you question yourself?
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So much talk this week about the new princess and the royal family. How did Kate get a pair of panty hose and heels on and have perfect makeup and hair after delivering mere hours before? I am sure it took “a village”. The fact is, sweats and a pony tail does not define a good mother and neither does perfectly coiffed hair. None of us should compare ourselves with Kate…or the Mom we are following on Pinterst…or our neighbor down the street. The only judge of our Motherhood comes from our children. If your children feel loved unconditionally, feel safe, have boundaries set with love, are allowed to experience their world, and are rooted in their family’s moral values…then you are mothering wonderfully…no matter your hair and makeup! All the talk about how amazing Kate looked missed one important point, all mothers have joys and challenges. All mothers have worries and sleepless nights. All mothers have hopes and dreams for their children. Kate Middleton, and each of us share the gift of motherhood and all that comes with it…whether we have a household of servants or not. Let’s not concentrate on comparisons, but concentrate on supporting each other. Each of us will have a different journey in motherhood. Some will have babies who sleep through the night at 8 weeks, some will have children with sleep challenges, some of us will have star students, some of us will have star athletes, some of us will have strong-willed children and some will have slow to warm children. Some of us will wear yoga pants and our hair in a pony tail and some of us will have our nails manicured and will always wear makeup…but all mothers’ hearts beat the same. We all have the same love and desires for our children; so instead of comparing ourselves with each other and feeling superior or inadequate, let’s make a concerted effort to look past the unimportant pieces of being a Mom and support each other in the all important pieces of being a Mom. Love to all Moms this Mother’s Day Week!
Take a breath, enjoy the joyful moments of each day, and remember you don’t have to be perfect to be the perfect parent.