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Category Archives: Discipline

Raising an unspoiled child…how to strike that parenting balance


A spoiled child grows into an adult who feels entitled…how do you strike the balance between wants and needs as a parent? It is so difficult to see your child upset, disappointed, or wanting something that you don’t feel is necessary or maybe can’t afford. There were many days when I questioned whether we should …

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More parenting tips….


A few more tips that I found out work over my 30 years and counting of parenting….what are your tips? 16.  You are your child’s parent, not friend You must parent, which means you may not always be liked Making difficult decisions that may cause your child to be unhappy at the moment, is the …

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A few parenting tips….


All of us have a few parenting tips…let’s share them this week! We all know that there is not an “official” parenting tip book…wouldn’t that be nice!!  But, in actuality, it is best for parents to develop their own “parenting book”.  Parenting your child is unique to you and your child.  Develop your parenting instruction …

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What is in your discipline “bag of tricks”?


What is in your discipline bag of tricks? It was 7:30 am and my day was in full swing. I was chasing a two year old trying to get him dressed again. It is barely an hour into the day and I felt like I was on the verge of yelling and a time out …

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Does your child have “selective hearing”?


Selective hearing?  Yep, every kid has it! Selective hearing…every child has it, (some adults too!)  I can remember thinking one of my children in particular may have had a hearing deficit, but it only showed up sometimes!  Asking her to pick up her shoes resulted in a no response, but she could hear my husband …

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No child is perfect…and that is OK!


No parent or child is perfect…and that is OK! We had a wonderful weekend celebrating the marriage of my daughter’s childhood friend.  I always cherish having all four of my children at home at the same time!  As Monday morning arrives, and college and budding careers claim my children again, I find my thoughts in the familiar place of focusing on my …

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Are the “Magic Words” still important?


Why is it that so often when you want your child to be on his or her best behavior…the most embarrassing things happen?  (Remind me to write about my son when he was 2 1/2 and dinner with our parish priest…long story)  Simply, because children are not born with manners…and the development of manners is …

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The “how to” of the discipline process


As promised, we will talk about the approach I like to teach when I speak to parents about discipline.   Remember our mantra:  “Attention is attention to a child whether it is negative or positive, attention to a behavior reinforces it!”  And  “Consistency is the key.” A few pointers to start: 1.  Set realistic guidelines. Know …

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Add a little silliness to your discipline…it works!


A little “clowning around” with discipline will work!  Infuse a little silliness in your day!  🙂 All the discipline discussion over the last few days and I feel like a very serious parent!  Discipline is serious business, and a very real necessity for your child, but there certainly are moments that a little bit of …

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Your child said what??? Don’t pull out the soap….this works better…..


What do you do when your sweet child utters a four letter word??? There are few things more shocking than hearing the sweet voice of your child say a 4 letter word…in the correct context no less! It is not uncommon for parents to look at me with shocked eyes and whisper, “Do you know …

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